Never Hit a Woman

Abuse is when you exercise power over someone in a way that causes harm.  When people talk about domestic violence power is always construed as physical strength and always is depicted as flowing from the man to the woman.  Physical strength is a very child like way of looking at power.   In America power can come from money, social status, gender, or even race.

Women enjoy a place in society where a cop (see video) would watch a woman hitting a man and ignore it, a place in society where bystanders would watch a woman hitting a man and assume he deserves it (also see video), whereas men fill a place in society that would cause him jail time were he to defend himself against attacks by a woman.  This is power.

Couple that with monetary power and the power that comes with the social status of maybe being a mother, and you can create a situation where a man is just as trapped in a bad situation as a woman could be.  If she makes the money or if there is a child involved and he loves his child and does not want to be separated from his child as tends to happen when a fathers social status is pitted against a mother's, where can he go?  Not many shelters out there for men in his predicament.

One argument Nazi-Feminists like to make is women can't cause as much harm.  However, if she is abusive, depending on her rage and ability to control her anger, there is plenty opportunity to cause damage.  Weapons and household goods like grits can land a dude in the hospital real quick.  They also like to cull  stats that show women as overwhelmingly being the victims of DV.  Well, if the police officer in this video is in any way representative of the behavior of other officers then they can wipe their ass with those stats.  Its funny how even the woman who did call the police wanted to call it on both of them when he clearly was just minding his own business.

At any rate, abuse is abuse.  Even if it is true women suffer from it more why is it an us vs. them enforce one but not the other sort of affair.  Did it ever occur to anyone that seriously looking at all incidents of DV regardless of the sex of the victim would actually advance the cause of DV overall?

The important thing to remember here is power.  Anyone can wield it.  Women are just as unjust as men in how they wield power.  Just something to think about.